Fragmentation

[Guest guest]

I spoke to Harsha about this a while back and really came to no grand

conclusions.

Besides the fact that we are not fragmented but think we are. (?)

 

If there is a situation creating separation between me and another person, I

do have 'control' over that. I can do whatever is necessary (by going

within or via communication) to heal the separation if need be.

 

What ailed me was seeing two others in conflict with each other... or even to

go as far as two nations. I am not involved in their fights, yet I do see

the conflict. With two others, I've always wanted to make peace between

them. I butted in. Usually to no avail. :-(

 

So I knew there must be a better way! I thought of when my son Joshua came

to live with me and my mom three years ago. I knew it might be tough for ma

to get used to having a teenager around and having her whole peaceful life

uprooted.

 

I was always on Joshua's butt to 'don't get on grannie's nerves'... or when

he would back-talk her or not do something she asked him to do, I would go

livid with anger at him. Our living arrangements were now in complete

disarray. The house was no longer peaceful as it always was before. I felt

responsible, guilty, fearful, and completely out of peace. All three of us

lived on the edge and it was NO fun!

 

I finally sat down with ma and said we gotta talk. I told her the problem,

and she said she was completely capable of handling Josh, if I would just let

her. (What??? That never occurred to me!) We agreed that if he gave me a

problem, I'd deal with it. But if it was between the two of them, she would

handle it, without me worrying to have to butt in.

 

Whoa! What a relief that was! So I let go..... appreciatively! They do

their thing, Josh & I do mine. Problem solved. The house has been peaceful

since.

 

Go figure.

 

Much Love,

xxxtg