Antoine/gossiping with you

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Hi, Antoine -

A pleasure to hear from you!

>> I had a supervisor once who said, "I don't know why so many therapists

say they're against gossiping. The most important things I've learned

about people have been from listening to the gossip."

>

>Antoine:

>This is interesting, those one learn more about the one gossiping or the

>one being gossiped about? Or those this mean that people are only gossip

>and there is, deeply, nothing to learn about them. Hummmm shuffling

>gossips instead of cards, that is an interesting perspective... Hope no

>one is not to much identified to their gossip, for it will ring the

>blasted tower. But that would make you Shiva

 

D: I think he meant that when gossiping, people let slip some of the

interests, intrigues, and thoughts that they wouldn't otherwise

let on are there. Yes, one learns much about the gossiper, but

sometimes about the gossipee. It seemed to me that he saw gossip as one

aspect of the "glue" that knits our social fabric together, along with its

judgments, moods, identifications, reactivities... I don't think he went

so far as to think that all people are is gossip, although, who knows what

he really meant? He was somewhat enigmatic. As Bob Dylan sang,

"the answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind..."

Love, Dan