sensitivity/perceptual clarity and sex

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Hi JB,

 

I am not a man, but I do dare to share some thoughts about this.

 

In this situation, when there is a feeling of being drained, I would listen to

the body and stay abstinent for a period of time. It is a good chance a natural

rythm for staying abstinent / letting go will appear by itself. There may be few

chances the body will want to be completely, 100% abstinent.

 

As you say, there are books for men on how to avoid ejaculation and some of

these exercises are meant to increase overall energy. I suspect this is a good

thing for many ppl. However, you don't need to be completely abstinent to avoid

feeling drained.

 

It would be sad if this problem was something that would terminate a

relationship, especially if there are no other major issues in it.

 

There are also ways of keeping sexual relations very good without the need for

the man to ejaculate. I do not think I should say anything more about that.

Some ppl think I'm cheap enough as it is.

 

 

Love,

 

Amanda.

 

 

On Sun, 08 Oct 2000 15:09:11 J B wrote:

>Since I have seen some postings on kundalini, I will allow myself to

>ask whether anyone here (man) can relate to the following:

>

>It has to do with a felt drainage of energy following ejaculation.

>

>The frekvency of intercourse is relatively rare.

>Even so, the drainage happens after the act and

>This state can last from 2-4 days after the act.

>It has turned the sex-realating into a kind of horror to avoid and

>certainly not to look forwards to.

>And a certain amount of guilt, and feeling sorry for her, on top of

>it, since her needs are greater than mine.

>

>I know of the Tantric/Taoistic practices of conserving the energy,

>with which I played around with a bit, but which do not attract me

>since the ego is so terribly busy.

>

>I told of this at some other forums, but they often make fun of it,

>and lots of insults/4-letter words are thrown at me, while telling me

>that it's ego-nonsense.

>

>I am not interested in a kundalini happening, or super-orgasm/sex or

>other such stimulations.

>

>When there is no sex for some days, the body/senses/perception

>becomes alive, and able to notice the 'small things' and delicacy of

>nuances outside and in the movements of the conditioned psychic.

>A kind of wholeness of energy comes about.

>

>So, can anyone relate to this ?

>Can anything be done, without to much ego-doing ?

>This situation has been there, for several years now.

>And now I am at the point of terminating the relationship, which

>brings its portion of suffering with it.

 

 

 

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